All humans have emotional outbursts. As we age, we can learn how to manage our frustrations, grief, or anger by channeling that negative energy into more productive outlets. But 1-year-olds do not have this ability yet. It is a life skill that comes from
time, experience, and the gentle guidance of others. In the context of this book, a “tantrum” is simply a big expression of big emotions. Your child trusts you enough to express his true feelings in front of you rather than keeping them bottled up inside. Your job is to help him learn better ways of managing his emotions. You can also use your compassion and gentle reassurance to connect with him emotionally, strengthening your relationship for the future. When you help your child make it through to the other side of a tantrum, you are giving him a gift for life.
What Causes Tantrums?
Babies are born with the instinct to cry in order to get their needs met. This is how they communicate to you that they are hungry, tired, wet, or in need of a cuddle. As your child passes from infancy into toddlerhood, she learns many other languages and social-emotional skills to express her immediate needs and convey her moods, preferences, and
However, when things don’t go her way, she lacks the ability to effectively communicate what the problem is. Common tantrum triggers for this age include being hungry, not getting enough sleep or being ready for a nap, feeling overstimulated, craving more independence, experiencing a disruption in routine. Your 1-year-old has very little patience to wait for you to figure out the reason for her distress.
Her frustration may show itself in a burst of anxiety, sadness, or even anger. She might lie down on the floor, cry, kick, flail her arms, scream, or flop backward. When you have just watched your child playing happily moments ago, this sudden change can feel awkward or concerning. Know that this is normal 1-year-old behavior—she is not trying to manipulate you or test you. If you remain calm and patient, you can help her.
Prevent Tantrums from Starting
The good news: With some preparation, techniques that help you think on your toes, and a little bit of luck, it is possible to help your child avoid a tantrum. The preparation starts with your routines. Young children thrive on predictability and often Young children thrive on predictability and often are distressed by disruptions or the absence of objects in their usual place. By providing consistent routines and an organized environment at home, you are helping your child feel safe physically and emotionally. The next step is to make a habit of regularly pausing to observe and evaluate your child’s habits and emotional states. Is he getting enough sleep? Does he seem to get hungry at the playground after about an hour, or does he prefer to snack at home? What does he find most entertaining while waiting: verbal games, songs, toys, or books? Deterring a potential tantrum may be as simple as packing your diaper bag with a snack or toy or helping your child locate his shoes. Most 1-year-old tantrums happen because your child lacks the communication skills to tell you what is wrong. If you can figure it out quickly and provide an immediate solution to fix the problem, this is the best form of tantrum prevention. In addition, if there is an unexpected event or you need to deviate from his usual routine, make sure to take the time to tell him what is going to happen. He will likely reward you with a calmer disposition.
Let’s face it: Because life is sometimes spontaneous and we must have reasonable boundaries, we can’t always cater to our child’s every need or desire. Children can get frustrated or upset even when we try our best to prevent it. If the tantrum is the result of a boundary you enforced, do not try to explain or reason with your 1-year-old. At this age, she is not capable of understanding logic, so this will only complicate things further. You might not be able to prevent your child’s tantrums altogether, but by handling these emotional expressions with handling these emotional expressions with compassion and consistency, you can reduce their frequency and severity. What you need is a plan.
Find your calm
The first step in handling any behavioral issue is to keep your own emotions in check. Remember that you are the adult. If you are feeling angry or upset, pause for a moment to
breathe deeply and get your own emotions under control. At this moment, your child is unable to manage her own feelings and you have all the power; before you can offer support and guidance, you need to be calm.
Can you imagine how she is feeling right now? What is her body language communicating? Tell her in simple, clear-spoken words that you understand how she feels. If you can determine what it is she needs and you are able to supply it
Comfort and reassure.
سوف يهدأ العديد من الأطفال الذين يبلغون من العمر عامًا واحدًا بالطمأنينة البدنية. حاول وضعها في حضنك على احتضانها ، أو فرك ظهرها برفق ، أو تقديم عناق. قد يجد أطفال الرضاعة الطبيعية الرضاعة طريقة طبيعية لتهدئة أنفسهم. غناء تهليل أو طمأنة عبارات مثل “أنا أحبك كثيرا” يمكن أن تعمل أيضا العجائب. ومع ذلك ، يفضل بعض الأطفال عدم لمسها أثناء فورة. حاول ألا تتعرض للإهانة إذا رفض طفلك جهودك ، لكن لا تمشي بعيدا. ابق على مقربة من